So I've been testing different approaches and here's a partial solution that worked for me to a level where SC-s finally become playable again:
STEP 1. Use .pug command- queue ONLY on SC-s there. I know it sux but it's what you're essentially forced to as a newb during 2x events to avoid stompfest.
STEP 2. Don't even think about running your game without:
viewtopic.php?t=6371 after installing this UI I realized how blind I was not even seeing half of the stuff that I should pay attention to in pvp. Takes some time to learn, probably even more to master, there's a TON of new commands you should use to configure UI for your individual play style but it's worth it.
Aaaand... that's pretty much it. Those 2 advices from this topic changed the situation for me the most - rest of the stuff about "learning experience" from getting stomped, "getting your feelings in order " and "git gud" style of answers are just excuses from folks just can't let go and allow bunch of newbs have fun.
To improve your experience even more
STEP 3. Get some crappy talis, farm your currency for better items to avoid wearing stuff from quests that's 10 levels behind, get some crappy pots and you're golden.
I'd say honestly step 3 is optional as with step 1 and 2 combined with current influx of newbs you'll find enough fresh players that just don't feel that it's necesary to cut themselves just to always win.
From time to time there STILL will be some dude on your scenarios that'll stomp you due to unpatched exploits/op builds, overpowered talis/pots for amounts of gold beyond newbie reach and gods know what items but at least it won't be the experience you'll have 90% of the time like I had couple days in a row before taking above two steps.
Thanks to all who actually tried to help with some decent advice - rest can go pump their egos on some newb scenarios and ignore the rest trying to have fun.
Peace!